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Coping Skill: Breathe With Purpose

What are some other things we can do during the pause to help us cope with an overwhelming feeling and self-regulate? It’s the most basic of all things – breathing. But here’s the thing … breathing normally is not necessarily going to help you regulate. In order to slow yourself down, return to a placeContinue reading “Coping Skill: Breathe With Purpose”

Coping Skill: Know Your Warning Signs

Continuing with the development of new coping skills, I want to offer you the idea of getting to know your warning signs. Warning signs are the ways you start to act or feel before you feel the big thing that sets off a cycle you’re trying to break, or makes you behave in a wayContinue reading “Coping Skill: Know Your Warning Signs”

Coping Skill: Name It to Tame It

So how do we regulate if we don’t already know how? If we take a pause between an issue and the feeling that occurs in response, then another pause between that feeling and an action, we can slow down enough to choose what to do about it. The pause means that we can check intoContinue reading “Coping Skill: Name It to Tame It”

Coping Skills and Self-Regulation

People talk a lot about how to cope with things that are challenging, or stressful, or any number of uncomfortable emotions. But what does “coping” actually mean to you? To me, it means a combination of two things: Being able to tolerate the feelings that arise from a challenge. Having tools to manage the issueContinue reading “Coping Skills and Self-Regulation”

Loving your Self is like Building a Home

I’m throwing away All of my masks now To wear only my Soul. I think it’s about time to get back home. — Naked soul I’ve been thinking about loving the Self for a long time now. The more I think about it, the more I have an image in my mind of a builder.Continue reading “Loving your Self is like Building a Home”

Self Acceptance and Freedom

I’m on a journey of self acceptance right now. That might sound strange coming from someone whose profession is all about helping people find their voice and live with fulfillment. How can I do that when I’m not quite there yet myself? I believe that sharing the challenges of being human makes me even moreContinue reading “Self Acceptance and Freedom”

Applying Your Love Language to Your Self

Dr. Gary Chapman developed the concept of love languages more than 25 years ago through his work with couples. He began to see that people express and receive love within categories, and that framing their interactions through these categories helped them to understand and connect in a much deeper way with each other. The fiveContinue reading “Applying Your Love Language to Your Self”

Loving Your Self: A Fundamental Relationship

At the root of all the behaviors, experiences, relationships, jobs, conflicts, passions … is how I feel about my Self. I believe it is the same for all of us. And the way that I feel about my Self? It’s changed over the years, through different relationships and experiences and awarenesses. What was once aContinue reading “Loving Your Self: A Fundamental Relationship”

Codependency (Part 2)

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, author and psychotherapist, has shifted the conversation around codependency into a different place, renaming it Self-Love Deficit Disorder. This is because he views the behavior of codependency as symptom of not loving your Self. I happen to agree. He states that the origin for a lack of self love comesContinue reading “Codependency (Part 2)”

Codependency (Part 1)

Codependency is a term many of us have heard, and even joke about, especially with how much time we’ve been spending with our partners during this interminable pandemic. “Ugh, I’ve become totally codependent on my wife to bring me coffee every morning.” Look, we even joke at home about how our dog and my husbandContinue reading “Codependency (Part 1)”