Encouragement vs. Criticism

Last week, when my alarm went off, I looked at the clock, realized that not only was I feeling well-rested, but I also had plenty of time to hit snooze and get up 9 minutes later, refreshed and ready for what I needed to do.  And then I said out loud to myself, “Good job!”Continue reading “Encouragement vs. Criticism”

Boundaries (Part 3)

I’ve written about boundaries before , but it’s such a complex and universal subject that I have to keep going.  This time, I want to share the idea that boundaries are not simply lines that can’t be crossed. They can be seen that way because they can function that way. But they’re so much moreContinue reading “Boundaries (Part 3)”

The World Needs You

I spread the message that knowing your Self is a massive component of accepting and loving you, because we can’t embody or express something that we don’t know. And if we don’t know who we are, it’s not just us that suffers, it’s the world too. Consider … The powerful force that makes Beyoncé shine.Continue reading “The World Needs You”

Why Self Love?

When I talk about self love, I’m talking about developing your relationship with – and to – your Self. But what is the Self? Who is the self? And why develop that relationship? Here’s what I believe, and what my life and work have shown me: The Self is the unique, beautiful piece of youContinue reading “Why Self Love?”

Feelings and Their Foundations

We learned everything as we grew and developed. How to walk, talk, tie our shoes, ride a bike, read a book … you name it. We watched the people around us and learned from what we saw and what we were told, which was then reinforced by our environment and our interaction with it. FeelingsContinue reading “Feelings and Their Foundations”

Listen

My goal on this earth is to help as many people as possible to see, love, and accept their deepest, truest version of who they are, so that they can live the most beautiful and fulfilling life possible – the one they were uniquely made for. So I talk alot about learning to listen toContinue reading “Listen”

Turning Truth Into Forgiveness

My last posts have been tackling the idea of telling the truth … all of it. The good, the bad, and the ugly (as my father in law used to say). I believe that it is in telling the whole story that we can come to each other, and to our Self, with an authenticityContinue reading “Turning Truth Into Forgiveness”

Fear Never Stops, But Your Truth Can Tame It

It’s become clear to me as I write about honesty and integrity that almost all of the reasons for avoiding my truth are about fear. Again. I was afraid to disappoint anyone. I was afraid to fail. I was afraid of being ignored (because that meant I wasn’t important). I didn’t want to be alone.Continue reading “Fear Never Stops, But Your Truth Can Tame It”

Integrity: Honesty in Action

I see honesty as the ability to identify and tell the truth, and integrity as the choice to live accordingly. In both cases, you say what you mean, and you mean what you say. But a person with integrity follows up their honesty with actions that are in line with what they know. It’s likeContinue reading “Integrity: Honesty in Action”

From Fear to Honesty

What if instead of fearing that the truth might break you, you considered it might break you open? SMD What does honesty have to do with my fears? Lots. First of all, for a long time, honesty wasn’t part of my life. Now, don’t get me wrong – I was a “good girl” and IContinue reading “From Fear to Honesty”