Changing Beliefs = Changing Your Life

In my work, I help people see how their beliefs drive the way they interpret an experience, generate their emotional responses, and ultimately interact with the outside world. It’s a really useful tool to understand ourselves, and start to gain a sense of power over our choices and behaviors. Here’s an example to show whatContinue reading “Changing Beliefs = Changing Your Life”

Boundaries and Barriers

I’ve been writing and talking about boundaries a lot lately, and it’s because I think they’re so misunderstood. A lot of us think of boundaries as demands. So when we say things like, “I won’t be yelled at like that,” or, “I can’t be on call for you like this anymore,” that this is settingContinue reading “Boundaries and Barriers”

The World Needs You

I spread the message that knowing your Self is a massive component of accepting and loving you, because we can’t embody or express something that we don’t know. And if we don’t know who we are, it’s not just us that suffers, it’s the world too. Consider … The powerful force that makes Beyoncé shine.Continue reading “The World Needs You”

Saying No Is Actually Saying Yes

Here is an idea I’d like you to consider: No = yes, and yes = no. Think about it! When you say yes to something or someone, that usually means you have to say no to someone or something else. Alternatively, when you say no, that usually means you’ve got room to say yes toContinue reading “Saying No Is Actually Saying Yes”

Why Self Love?

When I talk about self love, I’m talking about developing your relationship with – and to – your Self. But what is the Self? Who is the self? And why develop that relationship? Here’s what I believe, and what my life and work have shown me: The Self is the unique, beautiful piece of youContinue reading “Why Self Love?”

Feelings and Their Foundations

We learned everything as we grew and developed. How to walk, talk, tie our shoes, ride a bike, read a book … you name it. We watched the people around us and learned from what we saw and what we were told, which was then reinforced by our environment and our interaction with it. FeelingsContinue reading “Feelings and Their Foundations”

Listen

My goal on this earth is to help as many people as possible to see, love, and accept their deepest, truest version of who they are, so that they can live the most beautiful and fulfilling life possible – the one they were uniquely made for. So I talk alot about learning to listen toContinue reading “Listen”

Turning Truth Into Forgiveness

My last posts have been tackling the idea of telling the truth … all of it. The good, the bad, and the ugly (as my father in law used to say). I believe that it is in telling the whole story that we can come to each other, and to our Self, with an authenticityContinue reading “Turning Truth Into Forgiveness”

Telling the Whole Truth

Often we have really valid reasons for choosing to tell just part of a story, or leaving things unsaid or unclear … like sparing another person’s feelings, or prioritizing a bigger issue over a smaller one. I’ve done it myself and felt justified. But, I believe it comes with a cost. There is a Yiddish proverbContinue reading “Telling the Whole Truth”

Honesty Has Other Benefits

If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself. Anonymous I realized yesterday that one of the things I’ve gained from developing honesty with my Self and others is the ability to trust. I didn’t set out to do that,Continue reading “Honesty Has Other Benefits”