Boundaries and Barriers

I’ve been writing and talking about boundaries a lot lately, and it’s because I think they’re so misunderstood. A lot of us think of boundaries as demands. So when we say things like, “I won’t be yelled at like that,” or, “I can’t be on call for you like this anymore,” that this is settingContinue reading “Boundaries and Barriers”

The World Needs You

I spread the message that knowing your Self is a massive component of accepting and loving you, because we can’t embody or express something that we don’t know. And if we don’t know who we are, it’s not just us that suffers, it’s the world too. Consider … The powerful force that makes Beyoncé shine.Continue reading “The World Needs You”

Saying No Is Actually Saying Yes

Here is an idea I’d like you to consider: No = yes, and yes = no. Think about it! When you say yes to something or someone, that usually means you have to say no to someone or something else. Alternatively, when you say no, that usually means you’ve got room to say yes toContinue reading “Saying No Is Actually Saying Yes”

Why Self Love?

When I talk about self love, I’m talking about developing your relationship with – and to – your Self. But what is the Self? Who is the self? And why develop that relationship? Here’s what I believe, and what my life and work have shown me: The Self is the unique, beautiful piece of youContinue reading “Why Self Love?”

Feelings and Their Foundations

We learned everything as we grew and developed. How to walk, talk, tie our shoes, ride a bike, read a book … you name it. We watched the people around us and learned from what we saw and what we were told, which was then reinforced by our environment and our interaction with it. FeelingsContinue reading “Feelings and Their Foundations”

Telling the Whole Truth

Often we have really valid reasons for choosing to tell just part of a story, or leaving things unsaid or unclear … like sparing another person’s feelings, or prioritizing a bigger issue over a smaller one. I’ve done it myself and felt justified. But, I believe it comes with a cost. There is a Yiddish proverbContinue reading “Telling the Whole Truth”

Fear Never Stops, But Your Truth Can Tame It

It’s become clear to me as I write about honesty and integrity that almost all of the reasons for avoiding my truth are about fear. Again. I was afraid to disappoint anyone. I was afraid to fail. I was afraid of being ignored (because that meant I wasn’t important). I didn’t want to be alone.Continue reading “Fear Never Stops, But Your Truth Can Tame It”

Loving your Self is like Building a Home

I’m throwing away All of my masks now To wear only my Soul. I think it’s about time to get back home. — Naked soul I’ve been thinking about loving the Self for a long time now. The more I think about it, the more I have an image in my mind of a builder.Continue reading “Loving your Self is like Building a Home”

Codependency (Part 1)

Codependency is a term many of us have heard, and even joke about, especially with how much time we’ve been spending with our partners during this interminable pandemic. “Ugh, I’ve become totally codependent on my wife to bring me coffee every morning.” Look, we even joke at home about how our dog and my husbandContinue reading “Codependency (Part 1)”