People Pleasing is Complicated.

If you follow me on Instagram (, you know that I have been writing about people pleasing this week. It’s important to me to talk about, because I think it’s one of those topics that people are familiar with, and that we all generally have an understanding of, but that is deceiving in its simplicity.Continue reading “People Pleasing is Complicated.”

Boundaries (Part 2)

With an awareness and understanding of what a boundary is, the different types and styles, and its value, we can now dig into how we actually can create them in our lives. Because boundaries are tools through which we communicate the ways we want to be treated, I believe the first step in boundary settingContinue reading “Boundaries (Part 2)”

Boundaries (Part 1)

Boundaries. This is a topic that could take months to explore, and we would still not be done! There are so many things that connect with this concept, so many ways in which our boundaries show up, don’t get honored, make our lives better, impact our emotions, create our community … it’s something that touchesContinue reading “Boundaries (Part 1)”


Ester Perel says that there are only three things that couples fight about: Power and control Trust and closeness Respect and integrity She believes that once you view conflict from that awareness, you begin to see that the content isn’t really what people are fighting about. The form – the stuff inside the fight thatContinue reading “Fighting”

Trauma and your Brain

There is so much on this topic that I want to say, but I am starting with the basics. It is my hope in doing so that I provide you with a new understanding of how we experience trauma as deeply unique individuals within an amazingly adaptive common process. First: a definition of trauma. OneContinue reading “Trauma and your Brain”

Living from the Inside Out

I think about this a lot. Ever since I experienced a wonderful therapist who helped me to see that part of my work had to include a shift from looking outward for what I needed to looking inward instead. In grad school, one of my clients shared in session the realization that she was soContinue reading “Living from the Inside Out”

Take the One Seat.

Everyone talks about change, especially at the start of a new year.  Resolutions, themes, words of guidance, vision boards … all are valuable in helping us make the future we want for ourselves. But what if change is less about action, envisioning, reaching ahead, and more about accepting where we are right now? There is a concept I learnedContinue reading “Take the One Seat.”