Boundaries and Barriers

I’ve been writing and talking about boundaries a lot lately, and it’s because I think they’re so misunderstood. A lot of us think of boundaries as demands. So when we say things like, “I won’t be yelled at like that,” or, “I can’t be on call for you like this anymore,” that this is settingContinue reading “Boundaries and Barriers”

Listen

My goal on this earth is to help as many people as possible to see, love, and accept their deepest, truest version of who they are, so that they can live the most beautiful and fulfilling life possible – the one they were uniquely made for. So I talk alot about learning to listen toContinue reading “Listen”

Turning Truth Into Forgiveness

My last posts have been tackling the idea of telling the truth … all of it. The good, the bad, and the ugly (as my father in law used to say). I believe that it is in telling the whole story that we can come to each other, and to our Self, with an authenticityContinue reading “Turning Truth Into Forgiveness”

Telling the Whole Truth

Often we have really valid reasons for choosing to tell just part of a story, or leaving things unsaid or unclear … like sparing another person’s feelings, or prioritizing a bigger issue over a smaller one. I’ve done it myself and felt justified. But, I believe it comes with a cost. There is a Yiddish proverbContinue reading “Telling the Whole Truth”

Honesty Has Other Benefits

If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself. Anonymous I realized yesterday that one of the things I’ve gained from developing honesty with my Self and others is the ability to trust. I didn’t set out to do that,Continue reading “Honesty Has Other Benefits”

Fear Never Stops, But Your Truth Can Tame It

It’s become clear to me as I write about honesty and integrity that almost all of the reasons for avoiding my truth are about fear. Again. I was afraid to disappoint anyone. I was afraid to fail. I was afraid of being ignored (because that meant I wasn’t important). I didn’t want to be alone.Continue reading “Fear Never Stops, But Your Truth Can Tame It”

Integrity: Honesty in Action

I see honesty as the ability to identify and tell the truth, and integrity as the choice to live accordingly. In both cases, you say what you mean, and you mean what you say. But a person with integrity follows up their honesty with actions that are in line with what they know. It’s likeContinue reading “Integrity: Honesty in Action”

From Fear to Honesty

What if instead of fearing that the truth might break you, you considered it might break you open? SMD What does honesty have to do with my fears? Lots. First of all, for a long time, honesty wasn’t part of my life. Now, don’t get me wrong – I was a “good girl” and IContinue reading “From Fear to Honesty”